Do you know what else it means? It means I am still the least skilled participant in my dojo, by several belts. We had two new classmates join this session, a pair of 13-year olds. Once again, however, they could kick my butt if it came down to a sparring match. I’ve learned that the hard way.
I’ve also learned something else: a black belt is a white belt who never gave up.
Yes, it’s cheesy, but it applies to so much more than just karate. To master any skill or trade, one has to be willing to put in the time and effort. One must have dedication. Most importantly, one must have the desire to get back up after every failure. As the old adage goes:
Success is simply getting back up one more time than you’ve fallen.
I’ve taken quite a few shots the last few weeks when it comes to sparring. I’m fine with my “katas” – a group of pre-determined moves you have to memorize – but when it comes to sparring, I’m heavy on my toes and awkward with my counter-attacks. As such, I’ve been bested by two guys with brown belts (expected), got smoked by a woman with a green belt who weighs maybe half as much as I do, made to look silly by a 15-year old boy, and taken far too many kicks and punches from a 12-year old and 13-year old girl. I’m 32. I’m a tall, very athletic man in pretty good shape, and I’m the lowest on the totem pole.
One word: Humbling.
But I’ve stuck with it. And now I am no longer a beginner. I no longer get the funny looks from the kids in the “Little Dragons” class before mine. I’m someone who belongs. I may not be good, yet, but I’m trying. And I’m not giving up.
That’s the secret. Jimmy Valvano said it eloquently.
We all get there. Whether it’s a bad day, bad hour, bad year or bad minute, rest assured that everyone has the moment of despair where we feel like throwing in the towel. But we can’t. The only way you lose is to give up. If you always give it another shot, you’ve never lost…you’ve only taken a step towards succeeding. Take enough steps, and soon you’ll find everything getting out of your way. Success will be yours. You’ll feel alive. You will have fulfilled your promises to yourself.
And maybe, just maybe, you’ll be able to beat me up. 🙂