Thought I’d pass this article along…
Evan, I discovered* early this year, has been doing something similar to my goal with this blog – blogging about his journey to be a better man. Except he started last year. And he is far more eloquent with his words than I am. And he has bigger plans.
Part of his plan was to publish a book, which he accomplished this past spring. He is a published author, embarked on a career change, and seemingly was on top of the world. Yet, while we who follow along were thinking he has it all together, Evan was going through a much darker time in his own mind.
I want to share his post from the other day because it speaks so clearly to all of us. We all battle our own inner-voice that tells us that we are not successful. Too often we measure ourselves against where it is that we want to be, instead of measuring how far we’ve come. This voice of doubt can come creeping in and steal away everything we have worked for, leaving us even more lost and hopeless.
Even in those moments of darkest despair, however, there is always hope. I don’t want to paraphrase Evan’s insights, so I will simply encourage you to read his post.
“No matter how dark things become, there is always light. You can miss it if you aren’t looking for it.”
–Evan Sanders, The Better Man Projects
*It is more appropriate to say that Evan discovered my blog. He liked my blog shortly after I went live, no doubt suggested to him via WordPress based on similar titles. I saw his “like” and checked his out and was -and still am- in awe of how much he accomplished last year.
Physically: I’ve been able to get a workout in every single day. Some days, that workout consists of 50 pushups as I get ready to crawl into bed. Some days it’s a full, heavy weight session at the gym. But I’ve done some sort of muscle punishing workout every single day. I’ve seen some results, too. Nothing too tremendous, but enough that I’m happy with my progress.
No, I’m probably never going to be huge. I resigned myself to that my senior year of high school. Nor do I want to, as my wife claims she doesn’t like overly muscular dudes. So that’s good. But I am happy with my results so far.
I’ve completed a number of books so far, but I’m slightly behind pace. I realize that, but I’m not freaking out too badly by that, because when I get into a fiction book, I usually devour it.
I’m pleased with my progress. I’ve made a desk, learned to identify a lot of birds (which reminds me, we’ve seen our first robin in the yard), and I’m progressing towards my first belt in karate.
Again, pleased with where I am. I’m slightly off pace, but that will all change as rugby season comes into full swing this spring. I run a lot during the spring and fall seasons. So anywhere that I am behind, I will make it up very soon. In addition, we’ve got our first adventure race of the season coming up in two weekends. I’m excited to be running with my wife. Also, I love my Vibram Five Fingers.
People Who Matter:
I’m a little behind on this, but several upcoming posts include more than one person, so I will be back to pace very shortly.
So that’s it. A brief look at the first quarter. I’m sure I could be more in depth, but none of this matters to you. What really matters here is you. Is this inspiring you to do something better? Does it help you continue on a path you’ve wanted to walk? In the end, that’s what I hope to do…inspire you.
So here’s a little “Inside Baseball” for you…I wasn’t even sure I wanted to do this blog until two days before the New Year. I was afraid that by putting myself out there like this, I would risk a more public failure. Which is kind of funny because I failed spectacularly on national television last summer and I’ve never really cared about making a fool of myself.
But this, this is different. This is more personal. This is deeper. This is far more meaningful for me. This is about bettering myself, and that’s about as raw and exposed as you can be. So I thought about whether or not I wanted to follow through with it and ultimately decided that it would help push me and motivate me to be that better person. Without great risk there can be no great reward.
Why am I explaining all of this? I’m telling you why I didn’t have the groundwork laid to do this properly. I’ve been attempting to work on a Twitter account and Facebook page this entire time, as well as flesh out the pages and widgets and menus and design – yada yada yada -of this blog. Today, we’re nearly there. This weekend I plan to release my Facebook creation into the wild as well as publicly kick my Twitter account out the door and tell it to get to work. Ooooh, exciting!
Today was the first day off of the Detox. I actually felt a little guilty eating a real breakfast this morning. The wife and I laughed about it, and we both commented on how that brief three days opened our eyes to a lot of crap we normally ingest. We’re generally healthy eaters, I do a LOT of home cooking (my other blog: CatharticCuisine), support a local CSA and choose organic when financially-feasible. Nonetheless, even being “healthy”, we’re not truly healthy. Yes, it’s a sliding scale, but you don’t know how much you don’t know until you know what you don’t know, you know?
So, before I even had a cup of coffee this morning, I had another cleansing drink: homemade lemonade with fresh squeezed ginger. Essentially, you drink 12 oz of water with a half lemon squeezed into it, then grate a 1/2-inch cube of ginger and squeeze the gratings to get the juice into your cup. (Aside: I had no idea you could squeeze ginger and get juice, but it’s true!). It’s tart to wake you up, the ginger is a powerful detoxifier that can kick start your system, and if you like lemonade, it tastes great. I’d like to do this every morning that I can, if nothing else.
Morning Go Juice
12 oz water
1/2 squeezed lemon juice
1/2-inch cube ginger root, grated and juice squeezed into cup
The big news of the day is that I can place a start date on another of my Skills Goals: becoming proficient with my handgun. We bought our handgun today, and after the 48 hour waiting period, I will have it on Friday. I’m going to talk more about this, specifically gun safety and how we will be diligent with the firearm in a house with children (who will never know we have one), but I’ll save that for a later date. Rest assured, this was not a decision we made rashly. It’s been something that the wife and I have mulled over for months. I grew up around guns, learned to respect them at an early age, and intend to instill the same respect for a weapon in my children.
Other Goal Updates: Ran 2 miles yesterday on the treadmill, along with the standard quick workout of 50 pushups and 4:00 of wall sits. Got in some light weights today. Still working on Captivating.
As always: This is my journal. I hope it inspires you. Make 2013 your year.
Done with the Detox. I’m very glad I did it. Not only do I think it was a good thing to do, I feel much better in just three short days. I know that modern medicine will tell you that a detox has little to no “conclusive” proof that it works, but I can feel a difference already. I’m more alert, feel lighter, and definitely not feeling run-down around 4PM like I normally do.
So I can cross another goal off my list, and realize that I will probably add it to the list for 2014. I’ll probably do this again, periodically. Lord knows I’ve become more conscious about what I eat as I have grown older.
Have you ever tried a Detox? If so, what did you do, for how long, and do you think it made a difference? I’d love to hear some feedback below.
Other Goal Updates: None other to report fulfilled. Worked out and read today. Going to go get a mile in on the treadmill, and hope I don’t bump my head.
As always: This is my journal. I hope it inspires you. Make 2013 your year.