Day 111: Laughing In The Face

So I received this comment the other day via email regarding this blog.

“One mans journey into discovering that having no sustainabel roll in ilfe can be masked a narsissistic blog.   Step away from the computer and get a life….and stop thinking the world might have any interest in your banelity.”

Unsurprisingly, the comment was anonymously signed “Trixie”.  Saying nothing of the poor grammar and spelling, I couldn’t help but laugh at the comment.  It’s the first negative comment I’ve received on this blog since I began.  And frankly, I couldn’t care less.

To Trixie, allow me to reiterate what I end most of my posts with:

As always: This is simply my journal as I try to better myself. I hope it inspires you to focus on yourself. Make 2013 YOUR year.

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I can’t blame her for her anger.  The internet provides a wonderful venue for venting frustrations on others because you can do so with little chance of interaction or reprisal.  Very likely, she has an honest-to-goodness reason to be angry about something, and for some reason, my blog set her off.  I don’t know her story.  I don’t know what happened to her yesterday.  I don’t know if there is something that I said that offended her.  There are a lot of things I don’t know.  One thing that I do know, however, is this:  I don’t care about your negative comments.

Aside from the fact that you have provided me with an opportunity to write a post about sloughing off criticism, I don’t care about what you said, Trixie.  If someone wants to read my blog, they can.  If they don’t, they are not forced to.  In fact, I haven’t asked any of my friends on FB to Like my page in the hopes of increasing numbers.  I haven’t advertises this blog.  I rarely mention it in my day-to-day life amongst my friends.  It’s simply my carthartic outlet.  I don’t pretend it to be anything else.

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Criticism, when offered constructively, is not a bad thing.  We should cherish those friends who care enough to point out flaws in the hopes of helping us become better.  In a workplace, constructive criticism given in a positive fashion leads to progress.  On the athletic fields, it creates results.  Criticism, in and of itself, is not necessarily a bad thing.

It is also important to note the way criticism is given.  When given with care and passion, it shows a desire to change something for the better – we can call this positive-oriented criticism.  When given with anger and venom, it shows a lack of faith or unhappiness in the giver – we can call this negative-action criticism.  How we choose to respond to criticism says the most about ourselves.  We can shrug it off, listen to it, or dwell on it.  If we dwell on negative criticism, we expend energy to something that truly doesn’t even involve us; it involves the giver.  If we shrug off positive criticism, we risk not ever progressing.  The best advice is to listen to the critic and consider their intentions.  If they have your interest at heart, pay attention.  If not, let it go.

My favorite quote of all time about criticism:
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 As always: This is simply my journal as I try to better myself. I hope it inspires you to focus on yourself. Make 2013 YOUR year.
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Day 92: One Quarter In

 

keep-calm-and-check-progress-5So now that I am one-quarter of the way through this year, I took the opportunity to revisit some of my goals to see where I stand…

Physically:  I’ve been able to get a workout in every single day.  Some days, that workout consists of 50 pushups as I get ready to crawl into bed.  Some days it’s a full, heavy weight session at the gym.  But I’ve done some sort of muscle punishing workout every single day.  I’ve seen some results, too.  Nothing too tremendous, but enough that I’m happy with my progress.

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No, I’m probably never going to be huge.  I resigned myself to that my senior year of high school.  Nor do I want to, as my wife claims she doesn’t like overly muscular dudes.  So that’s good.  But I am happy with my results so far.

Reading:

I’ve completed a number of books so far, but I’m slightly behind pace.  I realize that, but I’m not freaking out too badly by that, because when I get into a fiction book, I usually devour it.

Skills:

I’m pleased with my progress.  I’ve made a desk, learned to identify a lot of birds (which reminds me, we’ve seen our first robin in the yard), and I’m progressing towards my first belt in karate.

Running:  

Again, pleased with where I am.  I’m slightly off pace, but that will all change as rugby season comes into full swing this spring.  I run a lot during the spring and fall seasons.  So anywhere that I am behind, I will make it up very soon.  In addition, we’ve got our first adventure race of the season coming up in two weekends.  I’m excited to be running with my wife.  Also, I love my Vibram Five Fingers.

People Who Matter:
I’m a little behind on this, but several upcoming posts include more than one person, so I will be back to pace very shortly.

So that’s it.  A brief look at the first quarter.  I’m sure I could be more in depth, but none of this matters to you.  What really matters here is you.  Is this inspiring you to do something better?  Does it help you continue on a path you’ve wanted to walk?  In the end, that’s what I hope to do…inspire you.

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As always: This is simply my journal as I try to better myself. I hope it inspires you to focus on yourself. Make 2013 YOUR year.
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Day 79: Stop Fighting the Old

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I saw this quote on Facebook today and loved it.   It really makes you think about change, particularly when you try to create it in your life.  Too often we try to change our old habits, and wind up failing (more on this in a few days).  What we really need to do is create new habits.  Let’s fill in the time our mind and body would focus on whatever it is we want to change.  If we give our time and energy to a new endeavor, not only are we more apt to stay the course (because new is fun), we’re more apt to overcome any additional obstacle because we don’t know better.  Soon, we’ll have forgotten about the old way of life and be consumed with the new.

That Socrates was a smart guy.  Someone should write that in a book.

As always: This is simply my journal as I try to better myself. I hope it inspires you to focus on yourself. Make 2013 YOUR year.
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Day 51: Quote of the Day

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“The human mind is a miracle, and you will never see it spring more beautifully into action than when it is fighting against evidence that it needs to change. Your psyche is equipped with layer after layer of defense mechanisms designed to shoot down anything that might keep things from staying exactly where they are — ask any addict.
David Wong, Cracked.com

I’ve talked about this one before, but it is important to remember and remind ourselves every so often that our number one enemy is ourself. We can do anything we want if we just convince our mind to do it. Conversely, our mind can keep us from doing anything if we just listen to it.

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Read the full article here: http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person_p2