Day 151: Life With Small Children

After the week I’ve had, alone with my three kids (all age three or younger), this brought a smile to my face.

There are people who say this to me:

“You should enjoy every moment now! They grow up so fast!”

I usually smile and give some sort of guffaw, but inside, I secretly want to hold them under water. Just for a minute or so. Just until they panic a little.

We know it’s true that they grow up too fast. But feeling like I have to enjoy every moment doesn’t feel like a gift, it feels like one more thing that is impossible to do, and right now, that list is way too long. Not every moment is enjoyable as a parent; it wasn’t for you, and it isn’t for me. You just have obviously forgotten. I can forgive you for that. But if you tell me to enjoy every moment one more time, I will need to break up with you. (My emphasis added).

I’m just happy to know I’m not a terrible parent…

You are not a terrible parent if you’d rather be at work.

You are not a terrible parent if you just can’t wait for them to go to bed.

You are not a terrible parent if the sound of their voices sometimes makes you want to drink and never stop.

Read the entire article here…
To The Parents of Small Children

Breathe in. Breathe out. You are not alone.

Day 148: Single Dad Project Day 2

It’s difficult enough to write a quality blog post, all the moreso to do on an iPad. This is exactly what I am left with this week, as the wife took the computer to Detroit with her. So this will be short and to the point.

Today was another challenge, but I made it through alright. Mornings are always toughest, because the baby’s nap schedule means we have to get right up and get right into it. Breakfast, potties, clothes changed, and almost immediately put him down for a nap. However, this gave me time to plan the day. I helped the girls get their puzzles out as he was sleeping, then packed lunches, made a shopping list, and got the car ready. Around 10:30, he was up and we were out the door like lightning. Several stops later, including lunch in a park, we had a bike with training wheels to set up and a very, VERY excited oldest daughter!

Today was a proud daddy day. Not only did she take to the bike like a natural, but after a few times around the driveway, I heard “Hey Dad, look! No hands!” Yeah, her first time ever on a bike and she’s already a daredevil. 🙂

I learned something today, however. Well, two things, actually. One, to do this job requires two people. I don’t know how I could possibly manage the parent side of things while also being expected to earn money as I have done. More power to working single parents for what you do, yet there is some truth to the idea that kids need a pair of parents.

Secondly, never underestimate the power of a reward. Yes, we know this almost implicitly as adults, but today was the first time I’ve ever seen my daughter go out of her way to listen, behave, and do everything I asked, because she knew she would get to ride her bike later. I don’t kow how long this might last, but I want to instill the concept of achieving rewards and goals in her, so this seems like as good of a chance as any.

That’s all my wrists can handle. Have a great night everyone!

Day 147: The Single Dad Project

Beginning today, I’m a single dad for my kids for a week. The wife is helping care for her mother in Detroit, who is undergoing surgery tomorrow. I’m calling this the Single Dad Project, because it is just a small taste of what millions of single parents do on a daily basis.

Beginning tomorrow, I’ll share some thoughts on this whole adventure. I can’t start tonight because it has not yet even been 12 hours. By tomorrow I’ll have a better idea of whether I could ever do this, and probably a greater appreciation for those that do.

Day 144: Quick Blurb

“A dog doesn’t care if you’re rich or poor, educated or illiterate, clever or dull. Give him your heart and he will give you his.”
John Grogan, Marley & Me

Not that it matters in the grand scheme of things, but a very busy week is drawing to a close (and just in time for another to begin next week, but more on that later).  We’re sending all of our puppies home to their new owners tomorrow.  So the last few nights have been characterized by late night certificate compiling, cleaning, and general dog-owners-sending-puppies-home kind of things.

Here’s one last post, from my wife, on the puppy blog.


Day 142: Quote of the Day

I thought this was appropriate, given the compete decay of leadership we’ve seen in our country today.

Where have these real leaders gone?

“The supreme quality for leadership is unquestionably integrity. Without it, no real success is possible, no matter whether it is on a section gang, a football field, in an army, or in an office.”
Dwight D. Eisenhower