So I received this comment the other day via email regarding this blog.
“One mans journey into discovering that having no sustainabel roll in ilfe can be masked a narsissistic blog. Step away from the computer and get a life….and stop thinking the world might have any interest in your banelity.”
Unsurprisingly, the comment was anonymously signed “Trixie”. Saying nothing of the poor grammar and spelling, I couldn’t help but laugh at the comment. It’s the first negative comment I’ve received on this blog since I began. And frankly, I couldn’t care less.
To Trixie, allow me to reiterate what I end most of my posts with:
As always: This is simply my journal as I try to better myself. I hope it inspires you to focus on yourself. Make 2013 YOUR year.
I can’t blame her for her anger. The internet provides a wonderful venue for venting frustrations on others because you can do so with little chance of interaction or reprisal. Very likely, she has an honest-to-goodness reason to be angry about something, and for some reason, my blog set her off. I don’t know her story. I don’t know what happened to her yesterday. I don’t know if there is something that I said that offended her. There are a lot of things I don’t know. One thing that I do know, however, is this: I don’t care about your negative comments.
Aside from the fact that you have provided me with an opportunity to write a post about sloughing off criticism, I don’t care about what you said, Trixie. If someone wants to read my blog, they can. If they don’t, they are not forced to. In fact, I haven’t asked any of my friends on FB to Like my page in the hopes of increasing numbers. I haven’t advertises this blog. I rarely mention it in my day-to-day life amongst my friends. It’s simply my carthartic outlet. I don’t pretend it to be anything else.
Criticism, when offered constructively, is not a bad thing. We should cherish those friends who care enough to point out flaws in the hopes of helping us become better. In a workplace, constructive criticism given in a positive fashion leads to progress. On the athletic fields, it creates results. Criticism, in and of itself, is not necessarily a bad thing.
It is also important to note the way criticism is given. When given with care and passion, it shows a desire to change something for the better – we can call this positive-oriented criticism. When given with anger and venom, it shows a lack of faith or unhappiness in the giver – we can call this negative-action criticism. How we choose to respond to criticism says the most about ourselves. We can shrug it off, listen to it, or dwell on it. If we dwell on negative criticism, we expend energy to something that truly doesn’t even involve us; it involves the giver. If we shrug off positive criticism, we risk not ever progressing. The best advice is to listen to the critic and consider their intentions. If they have your interest at heart, pay attention. If not, let it go.